So, do we really gotta make everyone happy these days?
Where’s the line, anyway?
And why do we feel the need to fit into these boxes that say women should always be the ones giving?
My therapist dropped this “giver or receiver” question on me. Turns out, I’m seen as a giver – and not in the good way, considering I’m chatting with a therapist about it. Whether it’s at work or just chilling at home, in even the little things or random chats, it feels like maybe it’s a gender thing. Not trying to play the victim card here, but yeah, some of it does tie back to being a woman 🙂
I often wonder, am I just too easy-going? When will I hit that spot where I’m confident and bursting with life? You know, the woman who’s got the answers, who’s true to herself. Being open without scaring people off, confident without coming off as superficial. It’s been quite the journey..
But, I’m determined to tackle these challenges. After all, this blog’s for me as much as it is for anyone stumbling upon it.
The usual suspects pushing their expectations on us are the big names in our lives – your boss, partner, in-laws, buddies, co-workers, you name it. A lot of them probably don’t have your back or even get what you’re going through but still expect the world from you. (Yeah, not the coolest bunch.)
Reflecting on my 30-something years, I’ve realized my dreams are kinda down-to-earth. Like, being able to keep my promises without freaking out over a to-do list that’s a mile long. Learning to say no! Seems like it’s also about looking out for others without acting all high and mighty. (Too much to ask for? Maybe…)
But aiming for these goals gets tricky with all the opinions flying at you. It’s about filtering through that noise, staying true to yourself, and always striving to be a bit better than yesterday.
So, what’s it all about, then?
- What do I stand for?
- What are my biases?
Getting to know yourself is the toughest part, and I’m still working on it. But acknowledging it’s a work in progress? That’s a good place to start 🙂
Realizing that feedback only matters if it’s coming from the right place. For someone to really offer you insights, they’ve got to know you. Plus, accepting that not everyone’s cheering for your success – and some opinions? They’re not even worth your time (a tough one for us people-pleasers to swallow).
Unless the feedback aligns with what you stand for and actually helps you level up, that’s when you should really bother to take it seriously. If it doesn’t fuel your real goals, then honestly, that kind of feedback is just noise.
So the conclusion ?
This life journey- is all mine. I don’t have to spell out my story for you, because how it unfolds is totally up to me.
I’m the writer and the star of my show!
I might not be the hero in your book, and that’s cool with me.
As long as I’m a bit happier today than I was yesterday, I appreciate your two cents; but in the end, I’m the one who gets to pick what truly matters.