Do Indian ladies have the worst luck in marriage ?
I do not wish to throw shade at my husband, but I often think about the choices we make in life as a “liberated”, “independent” , “educated” woman in India.
It follows the same pattern almost always..
- Study hard to earn good grades and secure a spot in any prestigious institution.
- Land a well-paying job by following the traditional career paths—Engineering, Medicine, Commerce, etc.
- Find a partner who meets your parents’ approval and fits their criteria. (Often times you can choose a guy from the list vetted by your parents)
- Tie the knot.
- Have a child who never asked to be born. (And if it’s a boy, more points !.. you can hereby avoid backhanded comments from your stupid relatives).
You might argue that this isn’t true, that not every Indian family is alike. You might point out that many of us are literate citizens with a global mindset, far from being narrow-minded. You could even suggest that Indian women are more privileged than their male counterparts.
For those views, I don’t have much to offer in this blog. You’re better off watching some alpha male or “traditional” wife (Kulasthree – in malayalam) content on YouTube.
This post is for the average woman – like me. I’m not a traditional housewife, nor am I purely career-driven. I’m a woman who struggles with prioritizing, often despising my own decisions when I have to join late-night meetings and have to hand a mobile phone to my daughter – knowing there is no support coming in.
However, I also strongly believe in the importance of having your own income. I believe every living being should have the freedom to choose their path in life, and often, money is the key to solving many, if not most, of life’s problems.
Being labeled as dramatic and overly emotional when your world is falling apart is the last thing you want to hear from your family.
The world we live in doesn’t operate solely on privilege; it functions because women contribute.
And may be a thought.
For some Indian men to understand (not generalizing here). In this day and age, it’s a woman’s choice whether she sticks with you or not (despite what you bring to the relationship).
May be its a liberal talk on my side, who knows. ?